Success like the other skills may also be learnt. In reality it ought to be an important part of child schooling. The million dollar question is the way to teach children to be successful?
Here’s the Solution.
Help your kids to develop the qualities necessary to succeed. The habits, the manner of thinking, the means of behavior which brings success, can be readily taught to children.
After all, kids have more interest and better grasping power than adults.
What are the qualities that help kids become successful?
The first and foremost is that the belief ‘I Will.’ “I can become successful… I will do it.” This sort of confident self-belief ought to be nurtured in children.
B.K. Narayan, writer of ‘Success Mindware,’ a complete self development course for kids, suggests following technique to construct confident self-image in kids.
“You can construct Success Self-image on your kids on the strength of every small success that they’ve achieved till now,” says Narayan. “Here is how you can do it,” he proceeds, “sit with your kids and collectively recount their past success.” For example:
• Your son scored great grades in a spelling test ( this shows your child has ability to learn and recall)
• Gets up on time for school (this reveals punctuality)
• Behaved politely with guest last week (shows he has good manners)
• Came third in conducting race (shows he’s healthy and can perform)
• Can color well (shows he’s artistic mind)…
“Like this count your child’s every small success. You would be surprised at how long list you get as soon as you start counting! Also make sure you emphasize to your child the qualities present behind every success, just as I have shown with every example from the bracket. Point out to your child that he attained those successes because he owned those great qualities that are found in powerful people,” states B.K. Narayan.
This easy method helps to construct a positive self-image, without fail, as your child receives the evidence of its ability. No doubt. No hesitation.
Aside from ‘I will’ do view, children should also be taught how to control their feelings.
Emotions are like high-voltage thoughts. Stress, anger, anxiety, every one is intense emotions. Teach your kids to control their feelings with easy breathing technique.
Few moments of slow, deep breathing can help to calm down the emotionally charged mind. Even 5 to 6 slow deep breaths help.
But this isn’t enough.
After a mind calms down a little, it ought to be reined in farther with good affirmation technique. Yeah, affirmation technique isn’t just for adults. They’re so simple that children can also use it easily.
Teach your kids to mentally repeat simple affirmations to control their feelings. Here are examples of affirmation which you can indicate for your kids:
“I’m feeling better. I’m calm now.”
“I’m cool and calm. I’m in control.”
Teach your kids to silently repeat confirmation few times before it makes them feel better.
How well your kids learn how to modify their behaviour is also an important quality required for success.
Bright people understand how to modify their behaviour to attain particular aim. But how to change behaviour?
Changing behavior involves changing habits. Encourage your children to create useful habits that will automatically lead to growth of good behaviour.
Another important quality for success is the way your kids cope with a given situation in life.
Like adults, children also face various situations in college, in play ground, in house, etc.. Children should be taught to deal with a given task or situation efficiently, and with least problem.
How can you teach this to your kids?
The simplest approach is, you become role model for them.
Show your kids through your efficient activities and trendy decisions about the best way best to handle day to day issues or unpleasant circumstances which may arise suddenly. This would guide your children to act in similar fashion.
In the end, it is said that children seldom listen to what we say but learn from observing our behavior.
With good training and individual guidance, you can give your children the best gift – the ability to be successful in their life.